Marriages are difficult. They take a lot of work even when the marriage is good. Sometimes when there are problems in a marriage, both the husband and the wife try to work on resolving the problems in the marriage. There are times, however, when one of the spouses must make an attempt to save a marriage alone. This is always more difficult but can be done. First, ask God to change YOU. Not your spouse! You can’t change your spouse and never will, but you can promote a change within yourself. Work on yourself everyday and try to fix what you can. It may be as simple as changing the way you react to something your spouse does. Try to view your spouse in a different light. When a negative thought comes into your mind, push it away. These are simple things, but if you put the focus on what you can do alone to fix your marriage and stop worrying about what is wrong with your spouse, you just might start to see a change in yourself, your spouse, and your marriage.